Domestic Violence

If you are a victim of domestic violence, call 9-1-1. You may also find help at the Emergency Support Shelter (ESS) in Kelso by calling (360) 636-8471, or the ESS Legal Advocates at (360) 423-1176 for help with protection orders. The Washington State Domestic Violence hotline number is (800) 562-6025.

  • Are you worried about a family member, friend, or co-worker?
  • Are you in a close personal relationship that has become frightening?
  • Do you feel threatened after a recent breakup with your spouse, partner, or boyfriend/girlfriend?

Why Get Help? The Danger Is Real

 If you are controlling or have a controlling partner, don't ignore these behaviors. They are learned behaviors that one person uses to intimidate and manipulate. They are destructive and dangerous. Every years, thousands of individuals are seriously hurt or killed by their spouses or partners.

If the abuse continues without outside help, the abusing partner may risk being arrested, going to jail, or losing the relationship.

What Hurts You Hurts Your Children

 Children get hurt when they see their parents being yelled at, pushed, or hit. They may feel scared and ashamed or think they caused the problem. Children grow up learning that it's okay to hurt other people or let other people hurt them. A third of all children who see their mothers beaten develop emotional problems. Boys who see their fathers beat their mothers are ten times more likely to be abusive in their adult intimate relationships.

Everyone Has the Right to Feel Safe in a Relationship

 Domestic violence hurts all family members. When a person is abusive, he or she eventually loses the trust and respect of his or her partner. Abused partners are afraid to communicate their feelings and needs. With help, people who are abusive can learn to be non-violent.